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What would you choose? Breast milk or formula?
Last Post 11 Apr 2013 11:37 AM by Kay. 38 Replies.
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christina
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21 Feb 2012 03:29 PM
    I know, I know, I know. It's another one.

    Because I work so closely with parents and am one myself I have found that a common problem is breastfeeding and a new mum asked me a very good question, she was having trouble breastfeeding and asked if you had to choose between bottle feeding your baby on a schedule with little body contact, but with breast milk in the bottle or breastfeeding your baby on cue with formula coming out of your breasts which would you choose? Would you choose the product of breast milk or the process of breastfeeding?

    I understand that you would never have to make this choice, but I found the question so intriguing that I thought about what I would choose. Obviously I love both parts of breastfeeding, the nutrition and the super close snuggles. What part would be more important to you?

    If you bottle feed do you prefer to bottle feed baby snuggled up against you? Do you feel that contact is important?

    Please play nice, I'm really interested to know what other moms think!
    Nicky
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    21 Feb 2012 04:14 PM
    Great topic!

    I only managed to breast feed my boys until they were about 8 weeks, I wish I had had support and advice on how to cut back and not just stop like I did.

    We then went on to formula milk and I got really upset when anyone fed the babies as my they didn't want my milk.
    janet
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    21 Feb 2012 04:40 PM
    my first option would be breast milk. If your body makes milk whilst your pregnant then it's there for the purpose of feeding your child via close contact. If thats not possible through personal reasons then through bottle. I believe you should try ( if there is no medical reasons ect)even if it only last a day , a week , a month, there is no time limit as long as you tried! I have four children age 23yr, 19, 17, and a 2yr old and the longest I managed to feed was 4months, the shortest 2weeks.
    rachael
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    21 Feb 2012 05:43 PM
    Hi, I didn't breast feed any of my 3 children, my first born wouldn't latch on and I became very frustrated and he became very unhappy so I decided to stop getting stressed and give him a bottle. My midwife was supportive and nobody made me feel guilty. It simply wasn't right for us. I still bonded with my Baby just as any other mother would so i think there should be less pressure on mum's. Of course breast is best but if you have tried and failed DO NOT beat yourself up about it. You are still doing the very best you can for your Baby xxxx
    Nicky
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    21 Feb 2012 06:26 PM
    I see lots of great comments on your Facebook page should I ask them to talk on here? As I would love to know more about breast feeding but don't like Facebook! Sorry xx
    Nicky
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    21 Feb 2012 06:26 PM
    I see lots of great comments on your Facebook page should I ask them to talk on here? As I would love to know more about breast feeding but don't like Facebook! Sorry xx
    Nicky
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    21 Feb 2012 06:35 PM
    I am hoping to breast feed my baby but am worry it will give me saggy boobs !

    It know it's silly, sorry blame my hormones xx
    rachael
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    21 Feb 2012 06:37 PM
    Hi Nicky, It's perfectly normal to worry what pregnancy and motherhood does to your body. One really great thing about breast feeding is it really pulls your tummy in after baby starts feeding xx
    Paul
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    21 Feb 2012 06:46 PM
    My wife couldn't breastfeed as she was I'll so I did all the baby feeds when poppy was tiny it was the best reason to wake up in the night
    janet
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    21 Feb 2012 06:47 PM
    i dont think anyone should feel guilt for not feeding as it is by choice!

    my first born back in 1988 i only manage 2weeks due to cracked nipples and pain..didnt have the suport like they do now. my second child i got bad mastitus, but it didnt put me off i still carried on feeding. my third i fed for four months as i did my forth child..

    i also wish the folk on face book would bring it to here because it would be interesting to read and comment in private.
    Paul
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    21 Feb 2012 06:48 PM
    Yes Facebook is ok but some debates are better on a forum.

    janet
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    21 Feb 2012 06:54 PM
    nicky..best feeling in the world knowing you carried your baby for 9moths and then you give the baby your milk, its own unique tasting milk, the bonding, the closeness, yes the tummy muscles lol , the less work with bottles, which are a nightmare to prepare and wash lol. wear a good bra and you wont suffer too bad with boobs. there are so many benifits to feeding your baby yourself as you will know from reading..its such a strong debate is bottle or breast lol ..

    good luck with the feeding :-)
    Melissa
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    21 Feb 2012 06:55 PM
    Hi Nicky - I'm new here but was involved in the debate on FB. I'm a qualified breastfeeding peer supporter so here if you have any questions.
    It's a myth that breastfeeding makes your breasts sag - it's actually pregnancy that causes the tissue to change and sag (and often down to genetics as to whether it happens to you), so that's one less thing to be worried about! x
    Yvonne
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    21 Feb 2012 07:01 PM
    Before I had my Son 11 years ago I would of said that breastfeeding was a matter of choice.I chose to breast feed him and with the support of a friend who was training to be a lactation consultant I managed to overcome several challenges and did breastfeed my son, only for 6 months as that was what was recommended at the time,if I knew then what I know now I would of carried on for much longer.Since that time I have done lots of study, become a mother supporter and am now an IBCLC and I have learnt that Human milk is for human babies formula (aka cows milk) is not.All babies are heardwired to breastfeed it is in their genetic make up...it is us Mums who have to learn what some authors describe the "mother baby dance".Of course a natural uncomplicated birth really helps,as does the correct and consistant support in the early weeks after birth.We all know the benefits to the baby and mum(for me it was about saving money primarily at that time !!!!!) but there are knock on effects on the rest of society as a whole for not breastfeeding i.e cost of hopsital admissions for gastroenteritis in babies,adult obesity ,diabetes the list goes on as well as the effect on the environment due to production and disposal of the bottle feeding paraphenalia.
    However and this is a big however in very rare circumstances there are some Mums who genuinly will never be able to breast feed and at the end of the day as one fabulous breastfeeding advocate once said formula is not poison and has indeed saved many a baby`s life.
    Nicky dont worry breastfeeding will not give you saggy boobs,but please get along to an ante natal workshop on breastfeeding women who have lots of knowledge tend to have more success when they hit challenges and think about enlisting the support of either a doula or someone else who has sucessfully breastfed for your birth and the early days as they are really crucial times XXX
    Nicky
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    21 Feb 2012 07:01 PM
    Thanks Janet and Melissa, I'm new here too found the website via the magazine I was given by my midwife, glad I did now.

    I really believed my friend about saggy boobs, thanks for the info is there anyway I can keep them looking nearly normal? I think I want to BF as it will help me bond with baby won't it ?
    rachael
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    21 Feb 2012 07:03 PM
    what on earth is colostrum??? Not even sure I know how to spell it!!! xx
    Nicky
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    21 Feb 2012 07:07 PM

    Posted By rachael on 21 Feb 2012 08:03 PM
    what on earth is colostrum??? Not even sure I know how to spell it!!! xx


    I ain't got a clue ?
    Melissa
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    21 Feb 2012 07:07 PM
    Yvonne - you're my kind of woman!!
    Nicky - not sure you can do a lot to prevent sagging, investing in some good nursing bras is vital though. I can't recommend the Bravado Bliss highly enough. It's really important to get measured and choose a bra that can accommodate your boobs which will go up and down during the day!
    Bonding isn't the only great reason to breastfeed! Take a look at this page http://milkmatters.org.uk/over-101-reasons-to-breastfeed/ for info on how it can protect your baby and you. Kellymom is also a fantastic website that's full of info. I also second Yvonne's suggestion to get along to an antenatal workshop and find out more about the support that's available in your area once baby arrives.
    Good luck with your pregnancy - enjoy! x
    Melissa
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    21 Feb 2012 07:09 PM
    Colostrum is the milk that your body produces straight after the baby is born, until your milk comes in 3 or 4 days later. The stuff is like gold dust, contains all sorts of amazing goodies to protect baby's health x

    christina
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    21 Feb 2012 07:14 PM
    Malissa really pleased you have joined our forum for breastfeeding here is another common question -
    is it very difficuilt to breastfeed if you have inverted nipples? I'm sure this is a question a lot of our mums would like to know but to shy to ask!
    Glad to have parents and professionals supporting each other on here because with the govement cuts to the NHS mum's are finding it harder to get the hellp they need! this is not a debate about NHS just a comment!
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