I am 24 weeks pregnant and thinking of giving up this baby for adoption. My husband has been pushing for abortion all through the pregnancy but it is something I couldn't do. I think I would give up this baby for adoption to save my marriage though.

Everyone (including the woman at Marie Stopes pregnancy counselling) said that adoption is far harder than abortion. I somehow don't really comprehend. Or do I? Has anyone been through this? What can I expect psychologically from this?

In a way I am thinking giving up a child for adoption at least gives them a chance to live. (I am 100% pro-choice btw, it's just not something for me... I hope not to offend anyone!)

Hi Jade

what are tough desicion you are facing, you poor thing. is there no way that your husband will be more supportive?

what do you want? do you want to keep the baby? it has to be something that you are happy with because at the end of the day your marraige could break down anyway and then you would have given your child away just please your husband.

i fell pregnant at 20 with my son and looked at all sorted of solutions, but in my heart i wanted to keep the baby no matter what happened with my boyfriend, we had only been togehter a few months. it worked out ok after a few hard converstations over many months. we ahve now been together 20 years which i think if i had given up our baby it would have been giving up on us

i do hope you have lots of good support around you as it sounds like you need it.c
my advise is go with your heart.

Gosh.... such a hard thing to do! I have no idea how anyone could!

I don't think anyone would freely admit to this!

I am not sure that many people will respond to this... It is such a sensitive subject to tackle.
Anyway best of luck

Hi Jade,
Your post was sometime ago, I hope all is well and you have managed to resolve your issue?
I hope your husband has let you go through with the pregnancy and with the possibility of keeping the baby or at the worst putting the baby up for adoption.
Best
Harriet

Hi Jade,
What a position you are in. My advice would be to seek some professional help and advice. I know the first step to do this will be very difficult but once you have had a good and open chat to someone you will be that step closer to resolving your problem.

Good luck