Hi I was wondering if any one can offer any ideas / suggestions / advice or just empathise with me. I am on my own with my daughter who was 3 last month. Its been just the 2 of us for over a year now and after a rocky start to contact with her dad she now sees him every other weekend. The thing is in the outset she didn't seem to notice a change in the situation or register any behavioural / emotional changes. However of late she has been highly emotional and often badly behaved which inevitably comes out in a backlash to me about not being my friend and wanting her Daddy. When she is there I assume she does the same about me as she phones me a few times each weekend to talk and often talks about wanting to come home. I am so confused as not sure if this is normal toddler / pre-school behaviour or whether she is just beginning to realise that her situation is different to other kids. She is also concerned as at the moment her Dad doesn't have a house (long story) but he has been VERY honest with her about it and she often comes out with 'my daddy hasn't got a house, he struggling to pay it' and is often asking questions about where he is and what he's doing. I am confused as to what is going on in her head and I think she is too and I don't know what to do for the best to help her. I hope this ramble makes sense to someone and some advice or thoughts can come my way? Thank you in advance.

Hi Tammy,
Sounds like you have a lot of issues going on here!
Firstly I would speak to your ex to see what her behaviour is like with him. and take it from there. You have to remember that little ones are like sponges and absorb just about everything! Tread carefully Tammy.

Its never an easy topic to tackle with such a young child. However, they are more resilient that you ever think. For your own sake break it down in to bite size chinks and at a level that will understand.

You must be pulling your hair out!
I think the best thing you can do is tell the truth but in a way she can understand. Its best to be honest and upfront. The behaviour will change ans is just a normal growing up phase! You just wait until she a teenager going on 23!! lol

Hope it goes well for you

Dianne xx